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I was masturbating and I peed myself. Is that normal?

Peeing while masturbating can be uncomfortable, but it's a common occurrence.
Also, I want you to understand that pee and ejaculation are quite similar for vagina owners. So, make sure you know the difference. But here are some tips to help make the experience more comfortable for you.

- Pee before you get down to business.
- Put some dirty t-shirts or towels on your bed so the fluids are soaked up safely.
- Or just masturbate in the shower. If any mess happens, it’ll be cleaned up right away.

Key Words: Masturbation

With so much real sex available why do people need sex toys?

Playing with sex toys is real sex too. It’s kinda in the name. It’s not a substitute for penetrative sex but more like an amazing add-on.

Anything, even something as pleasurable as sex, can get monotonous if it’s done the exact same way. Enter sex toys! They come in so many different shapes, sizes, speeds, and forms that you can keep the fire burning.

People use sex toys for the same reason they travel or visit new restaurants. A taste or trip of something new with a loved one is a vibe and a great way to break the monotony.

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Do men use vibrators for sexual stimulation?

I don’t know who needs to hear this but men can use vibrators and in more than one way!

1. Whole body stimulation: You can use a vibrator on multiple spots on your body like nipples, neck, thighs, near the butt, etc.

2. The Penis: Use it all over the shaft, testicles, and head. You can also use it around the edge of the penis head or where the foreskin is connected at the bottom.

3. Underrated Perineum: It is somewhere between your testicles and anal entry. Just let a vibe wander and you’ll KNOW you’ve hit gold!

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Is it healthy to masturbate without watching porn?

It is 100% healthy to masturbate without watching porn.

When it comes to masturbation, it’s really best to go with what works best for you. Many people assume that watching porn = masturbation. Please take that assumption and press Ctrl + X on it because self-pleasure does not have a one size fits all formula. If it did, then fantasies, erotica, ghazals and porn would all be just the same thing.

So as long as your masturbation practice isn’t hurting anyone, you do you, booboo.

Key Words: Masturbation

How can you tell if a woman has had an orgasm?

Simply put, there is no explicit way to tell if a woman has orgasmed. Nevertheless, here are some physical signs that indicate she is pleased/turned on but it’s possible that these things happen due to other factors.

These include:
• increased heartbeat
• sweating and moaning
• vagina contractions and urge to thrust pelvis
• vagina get a little more lubricated
• squirting
• it’s also possible to get a clitoral erection: where the vagina and clitoral bulb appears more swollen and enlarged

Remember that an orgasm is not the goal of sex. Pleasure is.

Key Words: Orgasm

How does anal sex feel compared to vaginal sex?

Anal sex and vaginal sex can feel different for different people.

Vaginal sex stimulates the clitoris indirectly through the vaginal walls.
It can lead to small or full-body orgasms and make your body quiver and even ejaculate at times. Most women are more familiar with vaginal sex and therefore tend to prefer it.

Having said that, anal sex is a world on its own. Anal sex is fun and enjoyable when there is teasing, tonguing, and rimming involved.

Anal penetration requires a lot of lubricant for a smoother experience. It can be just as enjoyable and freeing as vaginal sex.

Key Words: Anal Sex Vaginal Sex

What does sex feel like with a condom?

Sex with condoms feels like safety and more enjoyment.

I don’t mean it feels more pleasurable but you can enjoy the pleasure of stress-free sex.

You don’t have to worry about STIs or pregnancy and there is nothing better than that feeling.
Now, let’s talk about the touch. Some people don’t feel it at all.

Because hey, if you are super immersed in the act and your partner(s), the feeling of the condom is not gonna matter much. Bome feel like it’s a warm plastic pouch or rubbery down there.
There is something that can help this and keep you sliding- the good ol’ lube.

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Why do some people lick the vagina before sex? What is the taste of vaginal fluid?

Licking the vagina or vulva is oral sex.
Though it can be the highlight of your sexual experience, it is often done as a foreplay act.

Foreplay helps in arousing your partner and preparing them for more fun if you know what I mean.

As for the taste of vaginal fluid, it tastes different for different people.

It can taste metallic, bitter, fishy, sour, sweet like syrup or more.

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Is it good to masturbate daily?

Too much of anything is a bad thing. The only question is how much is too much?
Unfortunately, that answer is different for different people. For some people, it is okay to masturbate daily while for some people it can be harmful.

Is it indulgent, obsessive or compulsive? If you find that you are masturbating every day as an escape from something, then you should renegotiate your relationship with it.

But if do it in a manner that is indulgent and recreational, without hindering your daily life then I highly doubt that there is anything wrong with it.

Key Words: Masturbation

How do I deal with the feelings of I don’t want to share my partner if my partner is polyamorous?

Don’t ignore those feelings. You are allowed to feel and express whatever is going on in your mind.

If you feel like you are just not the kind of person who wants to be in an open and/or polyamorous relationship, bring it up with your partner.

Explain why you feel you can’t be on board with such an arrangement. Try to come up with solutions together.
And if you don’t see a way forward, don’t be afraid to walk away. Please remember not to blame or fault yourself for not wanting the same things.

Key Words: Polyamory

Does squirting feel any different than a common orgasm in women?

Please don’t believe everything you watch in porn coz it will scar and mislead you, much like it did to me.

Squirting can occur independently of orgasm and feel can feel amazing sometimes, but sometimes you won’t feel it at all.

Orgasms, on the other hand, are something extraordinary and each one has the potential to make you feel like you’re on a cloud.

So, to answer your question, yes, squirting can feel completely different than an orgasm.

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Is it safe to lick a woman’s vulva or to suck a man’s penis?

Yes, it is safe but not so safe that you go around pulling other’s people pants down without a thought.

To ensure maximum safety, try doing these things-

1. Discuss your sexual health and partners. Also, go for regular STI checkups.
2. Oral sex can also lead to STIs so take precautions. Invest in good dental dams or external condoms.
3. Do not go from the anus to the vagina or penis.
4. Mind what you eat! If your partner is allergic to nuts, dairy, etc. do not go down on them after consuming such foods.

How many times does the average adult have sex per month?

According to a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which roughly averages about once a week!

However, there is no right or wrong answer to this, and every relationship is different! "Normal" is whatever feels comfortable for you and your partner(/s), and it is important to communicate to ensure that everyone involved feels fulfilled.

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Is sex necessary in a relationship?

Let’s get one thing straight. There should never be a standing expectation for anything in the relationship unless otherwise discussed. Sex is far from necessary in a relationship.

There are many successful relationships in the world that are not sexual. Believe it or not, there are people who don’t constantly think about sex like those who identify as asexual, people suffering from PTSD, postpartum women, and those who suffer from reproductive ailments, etc. So as long as you and your partner are cool with it, that’s cool.

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Do guys like being called babe or baby by their girlfriends?

If a guy is into nicknames, he is surely going to like being called babe, baby or even boo.

The reason could be that-
• He is comfortable with you and himself.
• He does not want to stand up to toxic manly standards.

• He loves affection and feeling special and words like babe or baby are supposed to invoke these feelings.

Key Words: Relationship

What happens if I don’t use lube when masturbating?

A study by Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health said that that lube makes it 50 percent easier to orgasm for both men and women. For penis as well as vulva owners, skipping lubricant during masturbation can result in unwanted soreness, chafing and painful injuries which can get worse the rougher you get.

When our bodies don’t produce natural lubrication or don't produce enough, it is our job to make sure to use the appropriate lubricant to make sure we don’t hurt ourselves while trying to achieve the opposite.

Key Words: Masturbation Lube

What is the best way to make semen taste good?

Let’s face it – our private parts are never going to taste like chocolate cake. As long as you’re healthy and happy, there’s nothing wrong with smelling or tasting a certain way. No one goes down expecting a Michelin-star restaurant experience. But if you’re still not satisfied, here’s a checklist of foods to stock up on your next grocery run:

Things to eat: Fruit (citrus, bananas, and papayas), spices (cinnamon, nutmeg, and peppermint, among others), and wheatgrass.Things to avoid: Cigarettes, onions, garlic, and red meat – basically anything that your mother warned you about.

Key Words: Semen Taste

How can the mind make you orgasm in your sleep?

Wet dreams refers to sexual arousal leading to a sudden jump in your breath, and an increased blood flow to your genitals, sometimes followed by an orgasm.

Psychologist and sexologist, Laura Duranti, says that our brain integrates the external stimuli like the temperature or the room we're sleeping in, or what (or who) we're touching. Watching something sensual or talking/recalling something you have experienced can also encourage such dreams.

Another factor could be sleeping on your stomach as it restricts your breath and puts pressure on your genitals, reminding your brain of the sensations you feel during sex.

Key Words: Orgasm Sleep

Why do a lot of women hate giving blowjobs when most men like going down on women?

There tends to be more compulsion for women to give oral sex to men than it is for men to go down. The ones who like it are shamed for liking it and over-sexualized. Another reason is the smell and taste of the penis. While intimate parts are supposed to have a scent and a taste but that does not mean you shouldn’t try to clean yourself better.

Also, licking something is way easier than having something shoved down your throat. So, please cut your lady some slack!

How do I know if I have reached orgasm during masturbation as a female?

Simply put, there is no explicit way to tell you have orgasmed. The easiest way to tell that you are turned on is if your clitoral bulb feels bigger and looks pinker. Here are some physical signs that could be indicators that you are reaching an orgasm-

• Increased heartbeat, sweating and moaning are often physical outcomes.
• Vagina contractions and urge to thrust pelvis.
• Vagina gets a little more lubricated and the sex suddenly seems 100 times better
• Squirting & cumming might not happen for everyone but it is not a myth.

Key Words: Orgasm Masturbation

Can overuse of a vibrator cause damage to the clitoris or it’s nerves?

This is an urban myth - and one that has been perpetuated to shame the vulva-owning population’s sexuality.

This is supported by science. A 2009 report published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that 71% of women who have used a vibrator have never suffered any side effects - numbness, pain, irritation, swelling, and tears.
Those who had experienced some numbness explained that the feeling lifted shortly thereafter. Think of it like when you cross your legs and your foot feels numb but it goes away if you uncross and shake your foot.

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Is it important for women to pee after sex?

You can go after cuddles but not more than 30 minutes to err on the side of caution. Here's why you should tinkle after a sprinkle-

• The female urethra is shorter due to which the bacteria can easily travel up to the bladder.
• Urinary Tract Infections can be very painful. This condition is more common in sexually active women.
• Urinating dislodges bacteria before it becomes a full-fledged infection.
• Due to the stimulation of the G-spot and genital region, women get the urge to pee naturally.

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Do lesbians really need to have short nails for sex?

Trim those pointers before you get frisky to-
• A nice climactic spray at the end of some fingering, but not from being lanced by long nails that could’ve just easily been trimmed.
• If you cut the inside of your vagina, and then have sex with someone else, you could increase your risk for STI transmission.
• Having longer nails could lead to more bacteria getting trapped under your nail beds, which theoretically increases your risk for yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, and urinary tract infections.

But if you still can’t let go of those nails, you can always get a massager.

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Do men want emotional intimacy?

This notion that men aren’t emotional comes from deep-rooted cultural stereotypes that are rather toxic in nature. The gendered expectations set for men focus on the idea that if they cry or show emotions then they are weak.

You’d be surprised to know that this is actually so far from the truth.
At the end of the day, all men are homo sapiens and as a species, we crave emotional connections. As a result, men love intimacy as much as women do. It might take some time but it is definitely possible to see a man’s desire for emotional intimacy.

Key Words: Emotional Intimacy

What is the right time to get physical in a relationship?

There's no specific time to get physically intimate in a relationship - it's about whatever feels right to you and your partner(/s)! From developing comfort with each other to having an honest conversation about consent and boundaries, the stages of your relationship can only be defined by you and your significant other(/s).

It's also important to remember that getting physical or having sex is not the only marker of "love" or "trust". So take your time, and don't rush this experience.

You’ll know it in your gut when it’s time so don’t feel pressured into doing anything you don’t want to.

Key Words: Relationship

What are some not so obvious signs that a girl likes you?

A girl and a boy, or just any other human acts the same way when they like someone.

• Wanting more attention, time, and conversations.
• Being available for them all the time.
• If a girl is taking your side in an argument, she might like you. (Or maybe you are on the right so she supports you!)
• Freely complimenting crush's looks or personality.
• And that brings us to being nervous- sweating, tripping or crashing into objects and fumbling.

My suggestion is that you ask her or if you like her too, tell her. Words triumph over lone observations, remember that!

Key Words: Crush

My girlfriend loves me a lot but doesn’t show it enough. What does this mean?

You can help your partner be more comfortable with her emotions.

• Ask for it: You can communicate how her lack of expression makes you feel and you want her to share her feelings in words.
• Keep doing your thing: Seeing how vocal you can make her realize that she needs to do the same.
• Start small: She can start by sending you small appreciation texts every other day or writing a love letter for you.

But if she is not willing to put in the effort and you are unhappy with the situation, it might be better to let go.

How do I respond when my boyfriend won’t have sex with me now because I’m getting a vibrator?

Many vulva owners, especially during penetrative sex, need more intense clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm or to enjoy it the most.

Reiterate to your partner that this is simply how your body works, and it’s not a reflection of his 'performance'.

Approach your boyfriend and the conversation with empathy and care. Explain that your vibrator is in no way a replacement for him and the pleasure he gives you, but simply an additional tool to enhance your experience.

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How can I carry sex toys with me within India without being flagged?

Here are a few things to keep in mind:

Bag It- Carry your massagers in your hand/cabin bag, just as you would any of your electronic items, as they have rechargeable batteries in them.
Pick Petite Pieces- Stick with a petite but powerful toy like MyMuse's Pulse or Palm that can easily be tucked away.
Buzzing Off- You may want to run the charge out before you pack it. This might mean using it every night for a week before your trip;p

Play It Cool- If security asks what your device is, our go-to is a neck massager.

Key Words: Sex toys travel

What are the best sex positions to help women have their orgasms?

These positions allow deep penetration and the man to stimulate the woman's G-spot- cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, missionary, doggy style, and lotus position. The Butterfly position is great for stimulating the woman's clitoris and G-spot at the same time.

Key Words: Sex Positions Orgasms

What are some ways my husband and I can spice up our sex life?

You could say shake things up by trying a new flavor of toothpaste (just make sure it's minty fresh):p

Well, bad jokes aside, you can spice it up by experimenting with new positions, toys, or role-playing scenarios. Start by creating a romantic atmosphere with candles, soft music, or sensual scents.

Talk to your partner about your fantasies and desires, and ask them about theirs. Compliment your partner, give them a massage, or do something else to show your appreciation and love. And lastly, instead of rushing through sex, take your time to enjoy the moment and connect with your partner.

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Is it possible to get poop on penis during anal sex?

Make sure to do your business before getting down to business. Take a shower or bath to clean the area. Use a mild soap or anal cleanser to clean the area (or use an enema).

Wet your fingers (don’t use soap) and penetrate your butt to move your fingers around and clean the insides. Use lube if necessary.

Use a new and clean condom or dental dam to prevent the spread of bacteria and STIs. Communicate with your partner about cleanliness and comfort level. Don’t feel forced into doing things just because your partner doesn’t understand that shit happens.

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What is a nipple orgasm? How can I have it?

A nipple orgasm is a type of orgasm that is achieved through the stimulation of the nipples.

Here are some tips for beginners interested in nipple orgasm:

1. Start slowly and build up gradually.
2. Experiment with different types of stimulation like licking, sucking, pinching, and rolling between your fingers.
3. Use lubrication.
4. Pay attention to your body and adjust accordingly.
5. Combine nipple stimulation with other types of sexual activity.

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Will using a toy bigger than myself on my girlfriend ruin sex for us?

No, using sex of any size and caliber cannot ruin a relationship or sex.

Look at it as an add-on instead of competition. Additionally, remember that your girlfriend is with you because she loves you, not the inches you have (but also, she must love your inches, too). So don’t stress about it!

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What is it that nobody tells you about sex?

All these movies and porn videos made me think that sex is supposed to look hot and feel amazing. But now with some experience, I’ve realized there is more to sex!

It’s not a compulsion that sex will feel good the first time or make you orgasm. Your sweaty bodies make funny noises and your vagina lets out air farts called queefs. Changing positions isn’t as easy as a flip of a body. There is no shame in using sex toys and lubricants. Communication is important! You need to talk about your likes, and dislikes, and give feedback.

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I’m worried that my FWB guy is falling for me, what are some signs I should look out for?

Watch out for these signs to see if your FWB is falling for you-

• If he wants to spend time with you that's not all sex, that can be a sure sign.
• He tries not to give other girls the same amount of attention and gets jealous if he sees you give more attention to other guys, too.
• If it was ‘you up?’ and now it's ‘seen this vid?’, he is trying to find reasons to talk to you.
• He starts practicing all love languages, instead of only making love to you like compliments, gifts, help with chores, etc.

Key Words: Love Relationships

What are some tips for long-distance relationships?

Here are a few ways in which you can cultivate intimacy virtually in your LDR:

• Start off slow and get to know each other on a deeper level.
• Make full use of the video and voice-calling features on your phones and laptops.
• Make creative online hangouts plans like fun quizzes, online games, virtual rooms, and happy hours.
• Expressing how you feel and making effective conversation can transform your relationships.

What is the difference between love and a crush? Can kids and teens really experience love?

You see some cute person or an actor that you find attractive.
You don’t know the person but you have some connection with them- that's a crush. Once you get to know them better, that is where love begins. You always want more of them, their words, and their company.

Can kids and teenagers really feel the love? Well, teir love may not be fully developed or understand probable repercussions. But that does not mean that their love isn’t real.

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Do guys enjoy licking girls? If so, I don’t get why?

If you don’t get why guys enjoy licking girls, you are not doing it right.

Why do guys love to lick the ladies? Well, let's just say it's a flavor they can't resist! Giving oral sex is not just a one-sided delight, it's a two-way street of pure pleasure.

And let's be real, who doesn't love a little taste of heaven? But it's not just about the taste, fellas also enjoy the art of pleasing their partners through this intimate act. It's like a tasty treat with a cherry on top!

Key Words: Licking Oral Sex

Do you have oral sex after intercourse?

Yes, you can have oral sex after intercourse.

Just because there could be fluids around shouldn’t stop you from going in for a sip. If it still gives you goosebumps, clean up a bit first.

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Relevant Questions

How sexually liberated were ancient Indians?

People came together at public baths and sex was not a taboo as is evidenced by the art in Khajuraho and the Ajanta caves.
Polyamory and polygamy were also practiced mostly among those of the ruling class but it was not unheard of.

Vatsyayana's classic work “Kamasutra” (Aphorisms of love) was written somewhere between the 1st and 6th centuries. The main theme here appears to be the expression of the Indian attitude toward sex as a central and natural component. The text even contains information on homosexuality and using sexual paraphernalia.

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How can I be a better kisser?

Here’s how you can make fireworks explode-
Consent: When you respect someone’s boundaries and willingness, there is nothing hotter.

Use hands: No, don’t put them in their mouth! You can place your hands on their chin, cheek, and neck or hold their face to caress and position them better.
Time for Lips, peeps: Do not get too hard with your pucker or the tongue, and stay relaxed.

Gentle brushing. The rhythm and intensity can be figured out by you and yours easily as you ease into your kiss sesh!

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I feel tired of dating apps but I don’t want to stop using one. What should I do?

Dating in general, especially on apps, can be exhausting. It’s a strange balance between wanting to make connections and feeling entirely overwhelmed.

Try getting on for a set amount of time. This might limit your feelings of fatigue and help create more excitement since your time on the apps will be minimal! When it comes to coping— just give yourself lots of grace (and breaks!).
Take days off and away from the apps. Online dating is hard and exhausting— it’s okay to step away. And on days you feel like leaning into it and doing more? Go for it!

Key Words: Dating Relationships

Can I take a sex vibrator with me to an Indian airport or not?

Yes, but it is best to stow them discreetly without the packaging.

Another option is carrying toys that could double as more than just your vibrator like a body massager. Make sure to carry your toys at your own risk and always always, always have a backup story in mind.

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How can I make my boyfriend realize my importance?

Honey, if you are at the stage where you have to make him realize how important you are, you might as well just leave him!
Other guys might be dreaming of being with you and yet you want to stay stuck with him.
You should not beg for someone to want you. You will be well off by yourself instead of being hungry for his attention. It might sound harsh now but it is for your good.

P.S. This also answers your question. Leaving someone is one way to make them realize how hollow their life will be without you.

How do I deal with having a much higher libido than my boyfriend?

Here are things you can do to improve the mismatch in libido-
• Spend More Time Pleasing Yourself: Give them some sex space, compromise on the amount of external action you will receive, and spend more time exploring yourself.
• “It’s Not You, It’s Me”: Don’t take it personally! Understand it has absolutely nothing to do with you or your bedroom skills.
• Don’t Forget Health: It’s possible that either your high libido or your boyfriend's low libido has to do with some physical issues, go to a physician.

Lastly, it’s best to get outside help and consult with a relationship coach.

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What’s your post-orgasm ritual?

The first step in my post-orgasm ritual is that I pat my back. Just kidding, here’s my real post-orgasm ritual-

• Hydrate: It is always a good idea to drink a glass of water once your inner thirst is satisfied.
• Pee: It washes out any bacteria and prevents UTIs. You can wait until 30 minutes post-orgasm to get up to pee.
• Clean up: Go for a quick rinse with water after peeing. Clean your toys ASAP with soap+water or wipes. Letting it dry off with all the mess might make it a home for bacteria.

Last step- enjoy the nap!

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How soon in a dating relationship do you reveal your “non-negotiables”?

If you are short-tempered and are aware about the things you would never compromise on, I suggest revealing your non-negotiables to your partner early on.

Being vocal about your choices isn’t as bad as it is made out to be. You can let your partner know about the things you are not comfortable with. It can save you a lot of time and emotional baggage and avoid a bad breakup.

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What are some one-night stand manners to remember?

Here are some one-night stand etiquettes that you must follow-

1. Respect consent, boundaries, and everyone’s choices, unless there’s blood involved. Then, you can call them evil and run away.
2. Don’t be insecure about using pleasure props. They are not the competition but tools to amp up the heat!
3. Use protection and talk about your sexual history.
4. No matter how cute their globe collection or butter knife is, don’t steal it!
5. Be clear about not wanting more than a few hours of fun. It’s sad to lead someone on and then disappear.

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Can you tell me the difference between your products- Groove and Beat?

Well for starters,
Groove is a massage wand for vulva owners. It can be externally used to stimulate the clitoris or other erogenous zones and internally to hit those sweet spots. Groove can be enjoyed solo or with a partner.
Beat, on the other hand, is a vibrating stroker made for penis owners. It is designed like a sleeve to go over your penis and it is open-ended so it can fit all sizes and shapes. Think of it as your right-hand man to level your pleasure game. It can be used with your partner too.
Hope that helps 😇

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My wife and I have been happily married for more than 25 years. She is but an orthodox lady who believes in the sanctity of marriage with only one single man but I wish to explore cuckolding/threesome lifestyle with her. How can I convince her?

Well, convincing or forcing your wife to explore the cuckolding or threesome lifestyle might not be the solution. It's important to remember that everyone has their own boundaries, values, and their own set of beliefs.

So, if you're serious about exploring these kinks, COMMUNICATE with your lady. Ask her why she's hesitant and address her concerns. But, if she's not into it, then you have to respect her wishes.
Instead, you can try exploring other ways like trying out new positions, different toys or even some role-playing. Who knows, you might just discover a new kink that you both enjoy!

Except for the Durex ring, I have never used any vibrator. I am confused between Groove & other MyMuse massagers, which one should I buy?

Funnily enough, for most of us in India, the Durex ring is our first introduction to the world of pleasure toys. But at MyMuse, we take that experience up a notch (or 10). Our MyMuse massagers are all beginner-friendly but there are a few key differences to consider:

Pulse - is our best-selling massager. It is sleek, has 5 speeds, and gives targeted vibrations

Palm - has an ergonomic curved shape. It is perfect for partnered play or to get into some interesting positions

Breeze - is a suction massager. It does not vibrate but mimics the mouth

Groove is an internal+external massager with a flexible tip for exploration

My personal favourite is Groove, but to each their own.

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How can massagers be used for both him & her to spice things up with partner?

Sharing is definitely caring when it comes to sex!

Start by exploring each other's erogenous zones. In my opinion, you can use any of MyMuse’s massagers for partnered play. With something like Breeze or Pulse massager - you can use them to target your partner’s sweet spots - the neck, the nipples, clit.

With a flexible massager like Palm or Groove - you’ll be able to position between you and your partner during sex for maximum pleasure. Or, try mutual masturbation using different massagers. Have one of you take control and use the massager on the other person while they're tied up, blindfolded, or both.

Is Pulse Breeze & Palm TSA-approved and can be taken on flights?

Looking to join the MyMuse Mile High Club, eh? Well, fear not my dear, all of our massagers including are TSA-approved.

- First things first, Drain the battery and toss 'em in your carry-on confidently.
- But don't pack 'em in your checked luggage because lithium batteries ain't allowed down there.
- Now, when you hit security, just keep your massager in its pouch and plonk it on the tray.
- Just tell them it's a body massager because that's exactly what it is!

*If you’re crossing international waters, please look up the custom and immigration rules.

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I have two questions to ask. Firstly, I don't have the skill or knowledge to do woman-on-top position. So, what should I do? Because I believe every man expects this. Secondly, I never squirted in my life, so how to do it?

Oh, darling, let's debunk some myths here. Who said every man wants the woman-on-top position? Let's not jump to conclusions. However, if you're eager to become a master at it, practice makes perfect.

- Experiment with positions and angles

- Practice with a pillow or massagers like Pulse or Palm

- Speak up and communicate with your partner
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My girlfriend wants me to give her oral pleasure and I don’t know how to. Please help!

I understand that oral sex can be intimidating, especially if you're new to it. But with a little bit of practice and communication, you'll be good!
- Start by flattening your tongue and lapping the clitoris in an up-down motion.
- Lick the area around the clitoral hood & the clit
- Use your fingers to spread her vulva and rub those outer lips
- Try the combination of licking and fingering.
- Tease her thighs and nipples, too
If you're still too daunted, you can always start by using a suction massager like Breeze that mimics the mouth.

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Can we put whipped cream on the vagina?

Looks like you’ve got a sweet tooth 🍦 Putting whipped cream on your lady’s bits might seem like a sweet idea, but it's a recipe for disaster. Her sensitive genital area deserves better than harmful bacteria and chemicals that can cause irritation, infections, and other health problems.

But don't worry, there are plenty of other erogenous zones on her body where you can slather on that cream – the pubic mound, thighs, stomach, nipples, neck, you name it! So, let your imagination run wild and experiment with other areas that can take the heat.

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Is it normal to fantasise about forced sex while masturbating? I don’t want it to happen in real life.

Darling, let me break it down for you. Wanting to play out a fantasy of forced sex while flicking the bean is totally normal. It's called consensual non-consent (CNC), and it's a common BDSM kink where you want power play but only on your own terms and with your own consent. So, as long as you're not hurting anyone or yourself, go ahead and indulge in your little fantasy.

Remember, it's your body, your rules. Just be sure to communicate any limits and boundaries with any future partners, so they don't get the wrong idea.

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We've experimented with bondage, oral sex, and sex toys but haven't had sex yet. Lately, our sexual sessions have decreased and I'm not sure why. How can I break this dry spell?

Let's get one thing straight- sex isn't just about penetration. Bondage, oral sex, and sex toys are all part of the fun, too! So, don't discount those experiences you've had.

Now, if you want to break out of this rut, you gotta communicate with your partner. It's not as sexy as blindfolds and handcuffs, but it's necessary. Sit down with them and talk about your concerns and ask how you can reignite the passion. Maybe try some new toys or activities to spice things up, or even schedule some sexy time.

But seriously, talk it out first. And if all fails, don’t be afraid to get some professional help!

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My partner needs a lot of time to get hard and even then his erection is not hard enough to penetrate me completely, which leaves me a little dissatisfied. I then use a massager to satisfy myself. How can we work through this?

Firstly, you might want to encourage your partner to see a doctor to rule out any physical conditions. Secondly, consider exploring other sexual activities such as oral sex or using sex toys to enhance your experience. Thirdly, be patient and understanding - this can be a sensitive topic for some guys.

Remember, communication is key and you can work together to find a solution that suits both of you!

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Relevant Questions

I was in a relationship for 4 years and recently broke up. I was too hesitant & thought that sex would hurt a lot. How do I get over this?

Feeling a little anxious about getting it on? Totally understandable! But let me tell you- sex is supposed to feel good & safe.

- Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about your fears and worries.
- Sex doesn’t mean penetration, it refers to all things pleasurable like oral play, kissing, outercourse, using massagers, etc. So, I’d suggest defining sex in more ways than one.
- Penetration is not supposed to hurt, provided you engage in foreplay and feel aroused. So, try to know your body better on your own time & share the same with your partner.
- Use lube to keep things sliding swiftly!

If you still find it difficult, you can reach out to a doctor or a therapist.

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Can a man utilize the Groove wand as a prostate massager?

Although Groove is not designed specifically for the prostate, we've received feedback from some users that it can be effectively used for this purpose. Here are some things you should keep in mind before starting this adventure-

- Its long handle and slim neck make it easy to maneuver.
- However, the top of the Groove is flexible rather than stiff which might not be too comfortable for some people.
- Also, it doesn’t have a flared base like traditional butt plugs to control its penetrative power.

The bottom line is- it can be used as a prostate massager but it should be done carefully.

I haven’t gone all the way with anyone yet, and the reason is that it is too painful for me to even insert a pinkie finger. It burns, how can I get out of this phase?

Hey, I’m sorry to hear that you’re having trouble with penetration.
While mild pain is common for some folks, extreme discomfort and pain should not occur while penetrating a finger. Here are a few probable reasons-
- You are not aroused enough
- You have an infection down there
- You might have a medical condition like vaginismus and need treatment.
In the first case, you need to spend more time arousing yourself and use a good water-based lubricant like Glide. But if you have an infection or continued pain, you should talk to a healthcare provider who can assess your symptoms and provide a proper diagnosis.

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I have tried touching myself many times, but I didn't reach the finish line. How do I get there?

As I always say, the journey matters more than the destination. So, I suggest you focus on enjoying the amazing sensations during the self-love session. That way, you are bound to reach the destination O quite easily.
• Find out your turn-ons: You should know what you like in the boudoir like reading or watching something erotic or letting your imagination run wild.
• Experiment: You can experiment with different pressures, rhythms, and techniques down there.
• Get wet: Lube reduces friction and makes your touch feel smoother.
• Get some help: If your hand is failing to do its best, you can try using a massager like Breeze suction massager.

What are some passionate things I can say to spice things up during intimate moments with my partner?

If there’s one thing sexier than communication, it is sexy communication, AKA dirty talking!
Here are some things you can say to keep the mood going:
"I want you to use your hands/mouth/toys/etc."
"I've been thinking about this all day."
"I want you to take me harder/faster/slower/etc."
"You make me feel so good."
"I love it when you do that."
"That feels amazing."
And remember, the key to great dirty talking is confidence. And as the great Maddy Perez from Euphoria once said, “The thing about confidence is no one knows if it’s real”. So, say what you wanna say with a touch of confidence and sensuality.

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Is it okay to go down on someone? How can I be more careful?

Oh, dear! I love how you’re being safe and responsible. To answer your question-
It is safe to give and take oral, provided that you and your partner have taken the STI test and don’t engage with other people.

But if you’re hooking up with different people, you should always use protection because such infections can be transmitted via oral play.

Additionally, make sure you’re communicating well and doing everything consensually so it's a good experience for everyone involved!

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Can a single woman who's never done the deed use these in her 30s?

Using massagers by yourself is a personal choice that's not just for experienced lovebirds or people of a certain age. Who knows, you might even end up experimenting with your desires, and even spicing up your future bedroom adventures. Let me share some easy-peasy options for you-
Melt - These specially-made candles melt into stunning massage oil upon being lit. You can use them for temperature play or a simple massage
Pulse - It is our best-selling massager. It is sleek, has 5 speeds, and gives the most powerful, targeted vibrations
Breeze - It is a suction massager. This means it does not vibrate, but instead gives you pleasurable sensations that mimic the mouth

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Can I use lube with MyMuse's Breeze Massager?

Sounds like you’re ready to take your play time to the next level. Yes, of course, you can use lube with the Breeze suction massager. I always say, wetter is better—and you’re about to find out why ;).
Just make sure that you use a water-based lube like Glide!

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How and where to use palm and pulse massager? I am a bit unaware of all this stuff so a layman explanation would really help.

Pulse and Palm are two tools that everyone should have in their arsenal, especially if they’re looking to level up their self-love routine. Here’s how you can use them:

If targeted stimulation is your jam, Pulse is what you should use. You can run its powerful tip all over your erogenous zones.

Palm is great if you like broader stimulation and a more rounded vibe. You can use its smooth sides to massage your shoulder & calves while the little nub-like tip can be used for targeted areas.

There’s really no wrong way to use Palm or Pulse—except that they can’t be used internally. They both lack an attachment or a flared base and that’s where Groove comes to your rescue.

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How deep can I put my sausage in her V-bun, if you know what I mean?

Think of her bun or V like a rubber band that can expand to fit different sizes and lengths! The average one is about 3 to 4 inches (7.5 to 10 centimeters) long. But when things start heating up, it's like a magical portal that can expand to accommodate a sausage or massager like Groove massager!

Remember- it's not about going for the deepest dive possible, but rather exploring what feels good for both partners and focusing on mutual pleasure and connection.

I don’t feel anything when men go down on me. Is there anything I can do to make it pleasurable for me, or do I just give up on it?

First off, it's essential to remember that everyone's body is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. So, don't give up just yet!

Explore different techniques, positions, and sensations to find what works for you. For example, you might want to try different rhythms, pressures, or even incorporate a massager like Breeze to mimic oral fun. Next, guide them gently, sharing what you enjoy and what might bring you pleasure. Lastly, keep in mind that pleasure isn't just about physical sensations. If you're not feeling the connection or desire in the moment, it can affect your overall experience.

I've been struggling to get off, even when I'm with my boyfriend or by myself. Can't use a massager because my folks aren't cool with it. Any suggestions?

I suggest you focus on enjoying the amazing sensations and connecting with him. That way, you are bound to reach the destination O quite easily. And along the way, here are some things you should try-

Find out your turn-ons: Find out what get you hot like an erotic novel or a fantasy and share it with your partner.

Experiment: Try changing up your routine. The longer the foreplay, the more chances you get off.

Get wet:Lube makes everything better! It reduces friction, makes every touch feel smoother, and a lot more pleasurable.

Sneak in some help: I understand that folks at your place might not like pleasure props but that doesn’t mean you can’t get any. You should check out our Palm or Pulse massager as they have discreet designs.

I want to experiment with massagers along with him. How do I bring this up without making him feel like he isn't enough for my satisfaction?

Now, when it comes to exploring new horizons with toys, communication is key, as always. Lucky for you, I've got a few tips to help you navigate this conversation smoothly.

Reassurance: First things first, reassure your partner that he's doing an outstanding job and incorporating massagers is not a sign of dissatisfaction

Timing: You could start by mentioning an interesting article you read or a friend's experience. Gauge his reaction and openness to the idea. Emphasize how it's about exploring new sensations.

Bonus Tip: Remind him that his hands, skills, and connection are still the most important ingredients in the pleasure recipe.

Lastly, make sure he knows that you're open to exploring his desires and fantasies as well.

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Hello! I have trouble with internal O. The only way I get off is by playing with my love button, but never with my partner. Which is the best massager for me?

First of all, let me assure you - you're not alone. Surprising as it may be, most V-owners don’t get off from penetration alone and need clitoral play. Our bodies are all unique and we all have our own preferences.

When it comes to feeling the same with your partner, communication is key. It's also worth exploring different positions, angles, and techniques to see if there's something that enhances your pleasure.

As for the best massager for you, here are some that you can try:

Breeze - It mimics the mouth and offers 10 different intensities for you to try.

Groove - The flexible neck and the ergonomic design help with all those hard-to-reach spots. Use it to show your partner exactly what you like and how you like it.

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Can you tell me something about PME?

Well, PME or PE or Premature Ejaculation is when you turn into a sprinter who finishes the race before the gun even goes off. It is a very common issue and it's nothing to be ashamed of. So, why does it happen?

Psychological reasons: Stress, anxiety, or the fear of not living up to expectations.
Physical reasons: Overly sensitive equipment or hormonal imbalances.

And sometimes it's just a combination of factors. But overcoming PE is totally possible! You can start by talking openly with your partner. There are also techniques you can try, like the "stop-start" method, where you hit the pause button during the act to build up stamina.

You can also try certain numbing sprays and creams or kegel exercises. The best option would be to get medical help if it’s a persistent problem for you.

How do you dispose of old massagers that have become non-functional?

Oh, it's so good to see that you're taking care of yourself and recognizing when it's time to let go of old toys that are no longer functional. Here are a few suggestions on how to go about disposing them off:

Check with your neighbourhood recycling centre if they accept electronic devices. Remember to remove any batteries or rechargeable components before recycling.

If recycling options aren't readily available, disassemble it (if possible) and discard it discreetly. Wrap it in a newspaper or place it in a non-transparent bag before throwing it in the trash to maintain your privacy and to prevent others from accidentally stumbling upon it.

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How should I use the Jack stroker?

Using Jack is simple. While there is no wrong way to use it, here are the basics of how you can get started-

Stretch it out: On the first use, if Jack feels a bit tight, just stretch it out to fit perfectly.

Lube it up: Add a water-based lube like Glide Water to the inside, and/or directly onto your desired body part.

Stroke it out: Insert your member into the opening of Jack, and gently begin stroking the way you like. Experiment with different pressures and speeds or invert it.

Get clean: Invert and wash Jack with soap and water before and after use. Make sure that you pat it and let it air dry before you store it in its pouch.

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I've noticed that the sensations during partnered play aren't the same after I recently got circumcised. Is this normal? How do I fix it?

Hope that your procedure went well and that you are in good health!
Remember that I'm not a doctor, but I can offer some general insights. It's quite common for sensations to change after circumcision, as your little buddy is adjusting to its new look and feel. However, if you're concerned, talk to a professional.

There are plenty of other ways to explore and indulge in intimacy with your girlfriend-
- Communication to find more untapped fantasies
- Experimentation with different props, role play, positions, etc.
- Focusing on other erogenous zones.
- Don't forget about the power of foreplay, setting the mood, and exploring.

So, don't hesitate to explore alternative paths to pleasure. There’s a whole world of pleasure out there!

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